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Figuring It Out

Dec 9, 2021

Over the last decade, Elizabeth Earnshaw (LMFT) has become one of today's most trusted relationship teachers. Elizabeth is a renowned Gottman therapist, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy (MA), and influential Instagram therapist who has helped transform countless relationships. She is the Head Therapist at Actually, where she works to make relational wellness mainstream and accessible. She also owns A Better

Life Therapy in Pennsylvania and New Jersey, supporting clinicians who are helping couples every day. Out on November 30, 2021, Elizabeth's debut book, I WANT THIS TO WORK, is a trustworthy, inclusive guide to navigating the most challenging relationship issues we face. Couples will learn to work with three challenges they must tackle to repair and strengthen their relationships: conflict, healing, and connection. Culturally inclusive, LGBTQIA+ friendly, and written for both married and unmarried couples, this book brings an accessible guide to healing relationships and creating enduring intimacy. For more information, please visit


We talk about: 

  • Her new book “I want this to work” and some of the challenges we face with modern relationships and dating 
  • The importance of self-accountability and relational awareness 
  • The concept of opposite action and how it can help you during times of anxiety in your relationship
  • The things we should be looking for in a partner 
  • How modeling from the relationships we witness plays a role in how we show up and experience our own relationships AND how to break that pattern
  • The Gottman’s 4 Horsemen - the 4 communication habits that can increase the likelihood of divorce
  • How to express needs and boundaries, gridlock and willingness vs. willfulness, hot conversations vs. warm conversations 
  • And SO much more!! 


If you want to win a copy of this book, share a screenshot of this episode on IG and tag me @thehaileydaily and @lizlistens and share what you figured out this week! I’ll be selecting two winners. 



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